If Family History of disease and disorder means dysfunction in your fit life then no one would get in shape. Your genome only dictates a bit of your current fit life. You have the power! Some of us are destined to lose our hair by 20, our pant size by 30, by 45 women’s’ reproductive energies and the like but be damned if that means you give up on your fitness. Sometimes, it’s like the unspeakable horror – that story of your grandparents who despite their best efforts fell victim to the apparition of apathy, the golem and gluttony, the specter of spare ribs and checked out early. Guess what – don’t let those narratives dissuade you!
How does your family influence your health and fitness?
Reading the tea leaves is key. Knowing your genes is key.
We talk about HBM based on intention over actions. The actions are the outcome of intention – motivation. Motivation is upped when a person, a rational thinker, believes themselves vulnerable to physical losses (threat). The perceived outcome is then weighed. When weighing, people decide if the continued course of action is the best (being a lazy-ass) or attempting to change. This is the intention and motivating factor leading to a change (exercise).
Four biggest influences your Family Ties, literally, cast off you which impede your progress..
- You notice lethargy
- CV disease and obesity
- Smoking and Drinking and Habitually Partying
- Lifestyle change – occupational
Your history is a Ego Killing moment. Because you can reject and fight your genome.
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What’s good, everybody. Thank you for joining me. I’m Johann Francis CSCS and welcome to my show. Ego Killer! It’s right here on this show, we talk about all the moves you need to make inside the gym to help you literally move better outside in life, depending on what type of gym you go to. You can see it as a tribe and as an extension of who you are as a person, we choose to be inside of a gym culture and a gym environment where we’re messing around with other folks that are our tribe. They become our tribe. They become our people. And at very least I’m able to get into my own mindset. No, one’s gonna bother me about my own mindset, right? That can also be an extension of your tribe. A tribe you can define as a smaller version of your larger family, right?
And at the tribal level, at the Dunbar number, number, level, your tribe thinks culturally, along your lines and tribes take care of each other. Tribes have the idea of sustenance in mind. First families also do that too, but they’re much broader and you can have different tribes within a family. The point I’m trying to make is this, your tribe got your back. Your tribe has your back, the family, however, maybe not so much right now when you think of family. Even when I say family, this and family, that when I end, you know, little YouTube videos with family, or when I talk about family, I’m speaking about a tribe, but the greater family, the greater family, they might actually have a greater influence on what you think and do inside the gym. Have you thought about what your family ties literally, literally, what type of impact they have on you?
Your family ties literally a good and a bad upon your life. All right, now, most of the time on this show, I want to talk about the good influences that impact us. And it doesn’t matter what type of influence us impact us negatively. We need ways to explore the best of what we provide, but family ties. They can literally tie you back and tie you down sometimes when it comes to your physical mindset. And I want us to be aware of those ties by taking a look at family history. So that’s what we’re gonna talk about today. We’re gonna talk about how our family history has a great impact on the way we move and think about our fitness and the way I’m gonna draw this out is I’m gonna illustrate hopefully that you guys like, have you thought about that thing that your family has in their back pocket, right?
It’s often some chest in the attic somewhere. If you got addicts or basements, it’s in the crawl space, it’s a secret, or maybe it’s even a story, right? It’s a birthright. And that birthright is often handed to you. It’s a story. It’s a tale, a tall tale about why you should or shouldn’t be in shape. Do you guys have that within your family? Is there like a story or a time that you heard about within side, the confines of your own fam, where it was like, yo, your uncles, they were really good at pick a sport or your aunt. She was exceptional. You know, she had great hand dexterity. And then on the other side it was like, or maybe do you guys have the family where it’s like, oh, your grandfather and your father’s father, they both died at 42. They weren’t in great shape.
And how much do those stories of lineage of progeny impact the way that you move throughout today’s world? It’s important, right? This is the whole reason we study history. Look, your family influence your family. Ties literally have great impacts on your health and your fitness today. And it’s important for us to know what our genes are like so that we can explore and understand that we have the power to shift. Having the power to shift is the ego killer. It is knowing that I have all the ability. We have all the ability today to shift whatever that birthright story the family story has been. Okay. So while we sit here and discuss this, think about ways that your family has thought about physical health in the past. Think about ways that they’ve thought about Nu nutritive health in the past, what type of diet that they’ve been eating traditionally and ally, what ancestrally, whatever it might be like, what type of ways have you been eating based on your family?
We talked about this before. All right. So your family and the disease and disorder of life, it has a disproportionate impact on what you think. And like you’re gonna get into shape, doesn’t it, right? It maybe even impacts how tall you are and how tall you are impacts what sports you’re gonna play. Right? If you came out the womb at five foot two, maybe you’re not gonna be playing volleyball in the way that you want. You can still play and you should still get that done. But maybe it has impacted that, you know, all is right. Maybe you were told that yo, Hey, our side of the family, we’re real short. So you’re not gonna be doing that thing that you like to do for sport anymore. Did that prevent you from moving ahead? It shouldn’t, we’re gonna strike down that ego, even if it means doing that today so that you guys could get active, but first we have to, and I’ll later provide four of the biggest threats that your family ties literally cast on you.
That might impede your progress. But we’ll talk about that later, but we have to first uncover a truth. All right? The truth is mother nature wins, mother nature. Doesn’t give a, she is going to collect those. W’s no matter what. And that means that mother nature decides that you’re gonna lose all your hair by the time you’re 23, guess what’s gonna happen. You’re gonna be shining every time you walk outside. By that time, you are able to rent a car by yourself. And that’s just how it is. Cuz mother nature wins. As I can, as I say that I have, I realize like an emotional attachment to that story. When I would turn like 21, I got twists in my hair. And the next time the, the lady took the twist outta my hair. I noticed there was significantly less hair to twist up the next time.
Actually untwisted my hair like in the process of two or three months of having them twist my hair decided like they weren’t holding on anymore. They were like, oh, you just twisted us up. And that’s the last straw. So I started to go bald. By that point, mother nature wins, wins again. You. In any event, mother nature says a, you know what? You were one, two pan sizes up until your 35. Welcome to the land of, you know, let’s tack on another 10 to your pan size. How about some more inches for you? There you go. Why? Because you’re 35, right? Women. And when you start getting into your forties or fifties, some women earlier menopause, so that visitor, it don’t show up as much, right? <Laugh> all of this is me explaining that mother nature’s gonna win. And to that extent, family ties, no matter how literal it doesn’t really matter.
There’s some things we just have to accept. But what I’m talking about is the conditional story in the narrative. That’s passed down from family to family. What I’m talking about is the way we treat each other, maybe some of your older paternal members of your fam treats you thinking, oh shoot, you might have the family. You know, you might have the family shoulder or you can’t really, you know, or maybe that family, you know, is notorious for the, for the I, for the lethargy. That’s gonna happen and look like you’re coming on. You know? And you have people in your family that look at you and they’re kind of like getting a little lazy there. Huh? You know, that’s a family trait. I want you guys to understand that you don’t have to be tied down to what your family has decided and that you have the power to do it.
All right. For me, I know I’m constantly impressed over the years when I’ve met you guys and seen how willing you are to have more of a desultory attitude to the family lineage. If that family lineage meant obesity and unhealth, I noticed that, and I really appreciate that about you guys, that you guys are able to be more aggressive and active proactively about your health. You’re like, yo, my old man and my mom, she was very unhealthy. I’m not gonna let that happen. Or my old man used to smoke a cigar every night. And my aunt who raised me, she used to drink a sniffer, a Brandy every single night. I don’t want that for myself. So it could be a physical change. It could be a lifestyle change, but these things play hand in hand, play hand in hand. And so I want to talk about the four biggest threats.
All because reading the T leaves is important. Reading the tea leaves is important. It gives us the foresight to make a different decision. And when we’re able to read the tea leaves and what I mean is kind of see the triggers that gonna happen, right? We’re able to see those triggers. We’re gonna make a shift. We’re able to see that and make a behavioral shift and look for better outcomes. This is all Lynch bin behind something inside of psychology that we use when we’re training folks, when we’re training high level athletes. And when you guys come to folks like me, trying to change that, eating the health behavior model and without getting to psychobabble up in it and is a fairly effective means of thinking about your health that say that you are more likely to change something about your health. If you think your health is threatened, we can see a lot of threats based on the family stories, right?
The story of your, your cousin that had the real big Bo you know, braggadocios mouth got himself into trouble, right. You know, you’re going down that path. Maybe we start choosing a better lifestyle. Maybe, maybe instead of correcting overcorrecting behaviors like that. Oh, you know, we’re known for being really kinda audacious and vociferous about ours. I’m talking that talk when I go in here and do the thing and you know, that got your cousin or your family member into trouble. Well, maybe I use that and I become a good orator. Maybe I use that. And I become a good coach because it’s where you actually have to be very talkative and the loquacious type, right? Like in glorious bastards to be, to be very talkative, right? So it’s not necessarily about overcorrecting, but it is about taking notice health. Now going back to HBM the health believe model, the health believe model.
Again, if I come to you from the future and I’m like, yo, if you don’t stop eating a double cheeseburger every other day, you will pass away. By the time this is not correlative or real. I’m just saying, if you don’t stop with the eating process, double cheeseburger every day, you will die by the time you’re 47. Guess what happens if I realize that early enough, I shift. That’s what HBM the health believe model says. And it’s incredibly something that I noticed that a lot of you guys do when you talk to coaches like me inside the gym. Okay. And I wanna make you aware of it. What happens at that point is you think about, okay, am I gonna just be a lazy forever? Or does that threat scare me enough to where I attempt change, follow me. That attempted change. The intention to change is the big M or the big Mo right.
Motivation. So if I feel like yo, I don’t want to cut this thing short. I’m gonna be on this mortal coil for a minute. Okay. I want my behaviors to shift that right. There is your motivation. And it’s brought on by, excuse me, your belief that something bad’s gonna happen. If you don’t change your physical outcome, all right. That physical outcome doesn’t always necessarily mean you’re gonna start exercising more, but when it becomes, should I continue being a lazy? If I think that I’m gonna pass away early or be very sick early or do something else to change? Well, hopefully, hopefully you come and see a quality coach, right? The doctor and the quality coach. So that exercise can be the thing. Getting back in the gym could be the thing. Start tossing the weight around the room, getting big with it, inside the gym, having a big mindset, acting big and feeling big and about your fitness.
That’s the move you make because that’s gonna yield them results. All right. We want the motivating factor to be, I’m gonna get in the gym. I’m just gonna start the jumping rope. I’m gonna be active on my bike, whatever it is, those things on the outside, we anchor them on the inside of the gym. All right. So that’s a health belief model, but let’s take it a step back. I want to talk to you guys about the four biggest threats that your family ties literally cast on you to hold you back when they do. All right. So number one, what I’ve noticed over the years, 20 years, only 20 quality years. This is what I’ve noticed from you guys lethargy that’s number one, someone in your family suffers from the, from laziness, right? Little bit too Laz for their own good. Doesn’t like to wake up before 11 can’t wake up before 11, can’t get ’em outta bed for nothing. Right? And when you do, they put in just enough work to see themself, get right back into bed and knock out. Fantastic unimpressive.
No one wants that lethargy. That’s the first case that I noticed that your family ties literally hold you back. People will notice if they have someone in their family that is totally unmotivated to the point of bordering on chronic depression, real non recreational depression that might require, you know, meds. When we notice that we tend to be very active and we tend to want to get up in the gym. So that might be a threat where I need to do something about this. And of course we know that being super active in your life actually helps that because it helps configure your mood and helps shape that around all of this is it shapes your mood in a positive direction, right? That’s number one is noticing, let gene inside your family or hearing stories about the person that was really lazy and really stay active in their life.
Right? Number two, here’s the number. The second reason that family can literally tie you back is that heart disease, right? So the genetic heart disease, by and large, there are some ethnic variations, right? But truthfully, these things attack folks in general, if you’re unhealthy and obese across the board, maybe you got somebody in your family that has a bad heart. Maybe that story is yo, we’re known for having, you know, poor, weak heart, weak heart valves, a weak heart is gonna keep you back. Right. And so maybe you shouldn’t try to be physical. So that’s another threat where it’s like, okay, we know for a fact that decreasing your risk for heart disease and obesity starts by being super active. And then one of the greatest, like outside factors that we see reduces, and they’ve done studies that is counter genetic. Like if you’re genetics say like, yo, you’re getting hit heart disease.
One of the things that we can look at on someone that fights that and actually gets active, is being good with their cardio and their grip strength, their grip strength. So the ability to actually be occupationally functional in the world actually helps keep you alive longer. If you have a risk factor, like heart disease or something like that. So even having strong hands, like how good is that? So start swinging your ketlebells one finger at a time, which is actually a technique. And that’s one way that I suggest you work your grip strength. There’s a, of other means to do that. You know what I mean? But how cool is that is being functionally operational in life. Occupationally functional keeps genetics from taking over number three. It’s that partying? It’s that smokey smoke. It’s the drink. It’s all the things like doing that constantly can actually motivate you if you see it in your family to shift a little bit.
All right. And I’ve seen that before with folks where we have to, we were raised a certain way. We were raised with members in our family, drinking a little too much or smoking a little bit too much or whatever. And you’re like all the partying and the celebration. That’s great because listen, that is a family trait, not a tie where you can actually celebrate the good things in your life. Like that’s fire. No one should have that happen less, but it becomes a problem when we’re inside of our lives, trying to stay healthy. And we’re not able to separate the two out. We can’t compartmentalize the time to party it up and not, that becomes a problem. And I know over the years, I’ve seen a lot of you guys take to the gym when you notice like, yo, I’m not gonna get out of this horrible cycle unless I take to it myself.
All right now, that’s and now the number four reason that family ties literally <laugh> holds you back is just the general lifestyle general lifestyle. So maybe you have a lifestyle of overworking and binge eating. You have a lifestyle of dangerous moves, right? Maybe you’re a street guy <laugh> as it’s lightly put, like noticing that and family members can oftentimes raise the threat level to the point where I need to understand my ego needs to be broken down. And I need to shift a little bit. I don’t want to end up in the, in the, in the clink, like, you know, like those family members that I’ve had, I don’t want to end up feeling like I can’t be adequately employed. Like some of those other members in my family have, I don’t want to end up feeling poor, right. Or being too poor, like other family members, because they gave up, I need to make that lifestyle change.
And one of the best ways and most immediate ways that I could think of to counter that threat is to start a regimen of being active inside the gym and holding yourself accountable. There’s episodes that we talked about and how to be accountable. So you can also, you know, go ahead and listen to that. If you wanna hear more about how to stay accountable inside the gym, I offer four ways to do that. But so number one would be lethargy. We noticed that in our family, these are ways that your family literally ties you back. Number one, this might be lethargy. Number two can be obesity. Three can be that partying lifestyle and four general occupational lifestyle danger and poor risk assessment can cause a threat or raise a threat level to Crimson. And then we got it shifted a little bit. All right, this is your ego killing moment. So it’s important that you take advantage. They don’t come around much. And I want to see that you guys and hear that you guys did that, then walk it off after you did that and make it look like it’s nothing. All right. All because you can fight your jeans and you can fight your genome.
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